crooked_teeth

Well, that's life I suppose. There's a few on this board and in real life that rant about the same shit over and over, change nothing, and wonder why things don't get better.

I think it starts out very concerned and supportive and then it gets to the point where you want to shake the person.

When you never change your approach to your problems, you can't be all that surprised or disheartened when those you seek advice from change their approach with you.

If you don't want to change your behavior, then suck it up and get over it really is the only plausible advice for you.

I have to admit that while I thought that the response from TSG and Wake and Schnauzie_Mom might have been a bit harsh right off the bat, I agree with them somewhat. @greenplanner mentioned something about it being somewhat troll-like, almost, the way that zorbs posts items like this from time to time, and that struck a chord for me.

This is an AWFULLY inflamatory topic to just post a question, respond in a short manner to one person's observational comment, and then..totally disappear.

Was a discussion desired? Was zorbs looking for support? Because it's tough to get support in any way if you post something like this, and then just walk away from the whole thing. She might be understandably busy. But really...you can't post something like this and then walk away without putting additional effort into it.

I hope she comes back, and responds to some of the comments whether she finds them supportive or argumentative or whatever...

Actually, I pretty much agree with @Wake, I just didn't have the balls to say it.

Admit to yourself that compromising to have one kid when you never wanted kids in the first place probably was not a good idea.

Then, think about if you could truly be happy with your kid once they get through being a baby. Maybe teenager and adult years are more your style? If so, then discuss with your husband that he needs to shoulder most of the parenting responsibilities until the kid gets older. You need to figure out a career that will support your family and pretty much have your husband be a stay at home dad.

If you truly never see yourself enjoying being a mom, tell your husband that this compromise is not working for you, you hate your life, and divorce him and leave your kid with him. Send child support if it is needed and back out of his life. Let your husband move on and find someone that will enjoy being a mother to your child.

I do not think you need therapy. I think you compromised on something that was too big to compromise on. You either back out of the contract or live a miserable life and make an innocent life miserable in the process.