Penelope
Member Since: November 2, 2009
Location: Holland, MI
Mama. Lover of good wine, beer, music, food, chocolate, frisbee, running and writing.
Blog: http://penelopelife.com
Twitter: http://twitter.com/proserose
Yes, but not if I'm in a turn-only lane.
As a single mom I'd just consider anyone who has the possibility of someone else cooking/cleaning/contributing financially very lucky!
I like this one mama confession post:
I didn't know my oldest sister is a half sister until I was 12! Didn't make a bit of difference, of course :)
Love this idea! I'm in the mitten :)
That one rebound...
I have frequently gotten Mary Kate/Ashley Olsen and Topanga from Boy Meets World. I beg to differ on all accounts.
Regular coffee. If I'm feeling extra special, tall peppermint mocha with a pump and a half of each, no whip.
Mine was in 2000. My grandma bought it for me. It was shimmery purple, strapless, had a full skirt and was so long I had to wear five inch heels!
Funny, I just blogged about this!
My 4-year-old: "MOM! It won't go down!"
Me: "What's that, honey?"
My son: "My pee-pee. IT WON'T GO DOWN!"
Me: "Uh. Um. Uh. I'm sure it will. It has to at some point."
We've been married 8 years and we have a 3 year old son.
Any major decision requires two yeses and one no. Any time one of us says no to a major decision then that's it. We use it for moving, having a child, careers etc. Things that are BIG.
It comes down to what you value more, your relationship or moving for a job? No one ever thought "geez I wish I'd spent more time at work and less time with family and friends".
I would not move across the country (or state) without my spouse fully on board. I would hope that he would see why it was important to me and decide to go along with it but if he was adamant about NOT doing it then I would find a way to find a job or school in my area to stay here. Nothing is more important than my marriage.
You have to decide if you can live with NOT going. If you can't you'll resent him and blame him for it and the relationship won't last anyhow.
I totally agree with vakadesign but at the same time how much does it suck to not be interested in someone but be told they aren't interested in you? He could think these are dates or he could just want to be friends with you as well.
I think there is a very playful and clear way to do this without actually sitting him down to tell him you don't want to date him. Which would be awkward. Don't do romantic things. Reference how much he feels like a brother to you. Say things like "I'm so glad we're friends." Talk about how much you like being able to have a male friend without things being awkward.
Of course there is a chance he could see this as some sort of challenge but the same could happen if you explicitly state you don't want to date him. There's a pretty slim chance he won't catch on that you don't see yourself dating him though.
I got the Mirena at my six week postpartum visit. I cramped for a few days after and it was really uncomfortable. My sister and I had the same doctor and the day that our doctor delivered my nephew Huck she also checked my mirena and saw that the wires were too long so she cut them. I have had no problems since. If you really want to get it then I would say to go ahead and try. I have loved it! It was a little uncomfortable at first, but now its awesome.
Make it about your child, 100% of the time. Easier said than done. I have physical custody, but I bend over backwards to let my ex-husband know that it is never about me; it is always about the best interests of our son. I have gone so far as to change my schedule to accommodate his, request with the courts that my ex-husband's wages never be garnished and I have our son call his dad about every other day he doesn't see him (obviously not possible in your case, yet). If my son's dad calls and says he misses him, I rearrange my schedule and drive our son to visit his dad or have extra weekend time with him. We keep everything out of the courts- visitation, holidays, child support, etc.
My accommodating ways may seem ridiculous, but I think the non-custodial parent can often feel as though they are less important. I have way more time with my son, but I want to make sure his dad feels like he is involved. End result? My son sees his dad every single week, I get a check in our agreed upon amount every single week and my son never wonders if both his parents adore him. He knows.
And just to give you a back story, my ex-husband has two DUI's on his record and a history of partying, and at first got an attorney and was trying to fight me for custody at the beginning of the divorce...so it's not like I was dealing with this fantastic guy.
Basically...keep it about your precious child and let the dad know he matters and his opinions are valued. It really lessens the drama.
As a marathon runner, here's my advice: Go to your nearest RUNNING SPECIALTY STORE (not regular ol' sporting goods store like Dick's or Modell) like Fleet Feet or RoadRunner. Somewhere were there are serious runners on staff. They will fit you for a shoe.
A good shoe fitter will analyze your gait by having you run on a treadmill, either in your current running shoes, or barefoot, or both (though back when the Princeton Running Company was too small for a treadmill, Rob Chew used to watch people sprinting back and forth across the 100-year-old hardwood floor. That was always fun.) and then let you know whether you need stability support, motion control, how much padding, how much flexibility, etc. They'll also have a good idea of which shoes run large, and by how much (running shoes are weird. I wear a 6.5 in most regular shoes, but a 7 in my Mizuno Nirvana and a 7.5 in my New Balance 1223x. When you're going to be bashing your tootsies against the toebox of a shoe for 15 miles, that makes a big difference, believe me!)
Also, bring a pair of your current running shoes, or the closest thing you have to them. And, ideally, the thickest pair of socks you'll be running in.
The XX, Phoenix, Brother Ali, Atmosphere, Brandi Carlile, Metric, Andrew Bird
Yes and no.
Emotionally....as long as no one is still holding out hope. Make sure you're being very honest with yourselves about where you both want your friendship to go, or someone is going to be hurting.
Physically.....if it's one of those relationships that wouldn't work in the long run, but you're insanely physically attracted to each other? Better step away until that is truly gone, or you're likely to end up with clothes off and right back where you started.
It's totally 'do-able'. But both of you have to honest with yourselves about why you want to remain friends. If one of you is carrying a torch for the other one and hasn't dealt with the fact that the romantic aspect of your relationship is over, it could spell disaster.
Just try to be as honest with yourselves and each other as you can be.
I'm friends - and comfortably so - with several people I used to date.
I had to use my last.fm account to track this since I don't have iTunes--I hope it still counts!
Most played track: "You Can Call Me Al" by Paul Simon.
The runner up is "This Tornado Loves You" by Neko Case.
Andrew Bird "Fake Palindromes" from Andrew Bird & the Mysterious Production of Eggs.
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