As a former "cheatee" I can tell you that this question really can't be answered hypothetically. I swore I would never tolerate a man who cheated on me, that would be "it"! But then it happened, and I still loved him and it wasn't "it". So we went to counseling and worked it out, temporarily. Of course he cheated again, and again, and again until I finally decided that was "it" and moved on. Good luck to you!