Sivy
Member Since: November 3, 2009
Location: Atlanta, GA
I work in finance, I have 2 big dogs and a very evil cat, awesome husband and crazy toddler. I follow a Paleo diet and am almost cultish about Crossfit.
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Yes! We put the names of the dogs and the cat on the cards... we also give gifts from and to the animals. Both my family and my husband’s family do this, so there end up being lots of fun little packages to open.
Hell - one year I got a Christmas present from the "Blue/Green Algae" that lived in the fish tank!!
I found this blog about a year ago... she skipped the crib and used a twin matress on the floor. I think this is a super cool idea really. There are a whole pile of links at the end of the post regarding floor beds. (ugly link time)
http://www.joyfulabode.com/2010/07/09/baby-room-to...
My favorites:
Let it Be - the Beatles
Daughter - Loudon Wainwright III
Three Little Birds - Bob Marley
Baby Don't You Cry (the Pie Song) - from Waitress
Great... I am now singing to myself "what have i done..." a la Jack Skellington from Nightmare Before Christmas... Where is my ghost dog??
I have!
Let me set the stage: It was outside the Planned Parenthood that I used before I had decent health insurance. They were holding up those vulgar signs with a super blown up images of an aborted fetus and one guy kept telling me not to murder my baby... but it was when he actually tried to prevent me from walking in the door, he jumped in front of me and pushed me back, and then I let that guy have it with both barrels.
He had made it personal – making assumptions about me, my behavior and why I was at Planned Parenthood, and he had touched me. I very went to that quiet place in the back of my head that I am pretty sure is inhabited by a psychopath, and cocked my head to the side and just let him have it. I wanted to know: How he knew if I was pregnant or not? What gave him the right to touch me? Who did he think he was telling someone he had never met what to do with her body? Did he ovulate? Did he realize that he had just assaulted me? I went on and on, I don’t really remember what else I said to him.
Boy that really took the wind out of his sails! I think he really believed that PP only did abortions and nothing else. That if I had insurance I could go to a “real” doctor… that smug little piece of shit. I never saw him outside that particular PP location again. I can hope that he learned that the only reproductive organs he should be concerned with are his own.
I had an awesome midwife - she would create "policy" at the drop of a hat. If I didn't want someone that had been "promised" a spot during a sonogram, labor & delivery or while I was still at the hospital (after kiddo was born) she would come up with a "policy" that would keep them in waiting rooms and/or muscle folks right out of the room. Typically the "policy" was something along the lines of: only one other person was allowed in with me and that should be the father (when he was available).
I sing all the time. I have also mastered the art of "butt dancing"
ETA: "butt dancing" is what I call it when I am getting my groove on while sitting in the car.
@BarbraRex - if I read correctly, when your daughter has finished eating her meal and is still hungry you offer veggies/fruit. Have you tried giving her more protein? Good healthy fats can be filling too – I cook with coconut oil and eat A LOT of avocado.
Also, a tip I use to keep my 3 year old from getting too hungry at school (early breakfast / later lunch) is to use coconut oil and scramble her some eggs, or put the coconut oil in her smoothie. Good fats and enough protein help keep her full because they take so much longer to breakdown than carbs.
That’s all I can think of off the top of my head, I hope it helps some.
from the tags... yeah mine too.
Kiddo informed me that she is going to be a Witch. I am going to be Death (from the Sandman comics) and I'm working on the husband to be Destruction (so far not so much). I can't wait! I love Halloween!
I'm a judgmental hag bitch boss from hell butinsky know-it-all mean passive-aggressive Momster-in-law with an entire pine forest up my ass.
And believe it or not, I really do try to work on being a better person.
Marriage is a sacrament. It is a covenant between you and another. It is meant to be sacred. Love, however, is the most powerful force in the world, bar none. The two are not equitable. They each stand alone, except in the blissful circumstances where they form a mutually agreeable union.
WHY AM I READING ALL THIS?!?!?!?!?
Being bitter and holding a grudge is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. Let it go.
Everything happens for a reason. Learn the lesson from the situation, move forward.
That which must be worshiped.
Sugar and hoses. This thread is now awesome. So awesome, in fact, that if I ever get laid again, I'm going to refer to his schlong as my sugar hose.
We just read a 2010 study in Biology last semester. The hormones in milk/meat is a MYTH. Each girl is given a hormonal time frame from her mother which will determine when she starts her period/begins puberty. The only thing that upsets that is if her body fat percentage reaches a certain point--then it can result in early puberty. We have obese children and girls are starting earlier because of it.
What can we do about it? Well, we've been down the whole obesity-epidemic lane, so I won't reiterate that. But we educate our girls early. We make sure to tell them what a period is, what breasts are, how babies are made--EARLY. Like, if your child is in public school (even kindergarten) and doesn't have a watered-down, age-appropriate version of what will happen to her body/where babies are made, it's time to do it.
We buy our girls BRAS when their nipples poke out of their shirts, even if it seems "too early" to buy them a bra. I was wearing underwire cups in fourth grade because of my 34C knockers. You just gotta do it.
We educate girls about their bodies, and about proper period hygiene. We don't scare them about tampons, like the poor girl who lived up the street from me growing up. (I showed her how to use a tampon in seventh grade; she repented to the Bishop for losing her virginity; her mother yelled at me, screaming, "I didn't want her to know there was a hole there until she was married!" WTF?)
I think, too, we educate our boys about the changes both boys and girls will go through. I'll never forget when I was in eighth grade and leaked through my pants: the boy sitting behind me jumped up when the bell rang, pulled off his jacket, wrapped it around me, and whispered, "You're leaking. You should go see the nurse." That was it. Simple, no teasing. I sent him and his mother a thank you card, because I would have walked down the whole hall with bloody khaki pants if it wasn't for him.
We're just bigger as people in general, so even if you don't have an overweight daughter, she could still start earlier. When your body fat percentage reaches a certain proportion, you are technically ready to make babies--you have enough fat in your system to sustain another life in your womb. I repeat, the hormones in milk/eggs/meat is NOT the culprit.
Well what in the world would I have to clutch if not for pearls??????
I think the mechanics of sex need to be taught. It's biology, people. It's a part of life. Teens should know where babies come from, how they get there, and how NOT to get pregnant.
It strikes me as silly that some people want to keep teens in the dark about something so important--misinformation and lack of information is dangerous, whereas proper information allows teens to make informed decisions.
If you're religious, I have no problem with you telling your kids to wait until they're married--but how does keeping them ignorant about the details help keep them "pure"? You don't choose to have sex because you're informed about it and you don't choose NOT to have sex because you're uninformed about it: whether you choose to have sex or not is based on other things. (Studies have shown that comprehensive sex ed actually DECREASES the age at which kids first have sex, and also leads to fewer teen pregnancies.)
Besides, if we don't teach sex ed to teen girls, teen boys will be teaching them.
As for abstinence, I think it's fine to teach it as long as it's presented as an option along with all the other options. My ideal sex ed class for teens would consist of this curriculum:
1. Male genitalia
2. Female genitalia
3. How sex works
4. How pregnancy happens
5. How STDs are transmitted & how to protect yourself
6. Rape, date rape, sexual abuse, relationship abuse
7. How to figure out when you're ready to have sex
8. How sex will affect your relationship (i.e., dispel myths that it will make people love you, etc.)
9. Why abstinence might be right for you
Honestly, I feel that most adults in North America have too many hangups about sex and relationships to give kids the education they deserve.
Kid needs better handlers. Handlers that preview questions so he can better prepare answers or nix what he doesn't need to discuss. He's a child. His "things happen for a reason" comment doesn't imply an offensive nonchalance about rape, I perceive it as a childlike response to something too complicated for him to wrap his brain around. When I was 16 I thought abortion was killing babies too. And that's because I was a child who didn't have a clue. If someone would have asked me about abortion after rape I still would have focused on the poor dead baby and wouldn't have known what the fuck to say. "Things happen for a reason" is a trite, common go to response when a simple or immature mind tries to grapple with complexity. I don't think it's fair that the adults in his life didn't help him avoid discussing issues he obviously doesn't have the maturity to discuss.
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